16 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend is Mean to You
You treasure your prince charming like a queen’s crown. You go to great lengths to please him. You adjust to his ways and wishes. After all this love and so much effort, you find a mean streak in him! His words sting or his behaviour hurts you. So why is he behaving like this?
Here are some reasons as to why your boyfriend is mean to you.
- You are clingy
Boys hate clingy! If you are hovering around like a satellite around him he is going to get extremely irritated. Calling him 10 times a day, going out only with him, accompanying him to all his night outs – do you ever leave him alone? Your constant companionship is going to frustrate him and he will out lash it all on you. [ Read : 15 Suggestive Signs of a Controlling Boyfriend ]
- Vengeance
Is he getting back at you for something? Think about it – you may have behaved badly in the past or hurt his feelings by cheating on him or ignoring him. All this has left a deep scar in his life and he is just taking revenge.
- Different personalities
Your boyfriend is very different from you – he may prefer watching a movie alone, while you want your bunch of friends at home creating a laughter riot. Similarly, his ways of talking or dealing with stress is such that he seems mean and rude. [ Read : 15 Things to Consider Before Moving in with Your Boyfriend! ]
- Lack of good manners
Chances are that his mother never taught him how to be a gentleman! He simply does not know how to behave with a lady – how to speak with him, how to convey his disapproval, how to sort of a fight. All the shabby behaviour shows is his ruthless personality!
- He’s fooling around
You think he’s in love and he thinks you are a fool! That is correct – one of the major reasons for him being rude to you is because he does not truly love you. Whether you exist or not does not bother him and that is what reflects in his bad behaviour. [ Read : 13 Annoying Things Boyfriends Do and How to Avoid Them ]
- No communication
Your boyfriend gets into bed as soon as you get back from the party and you comprehend that he is upset about something. This assumption which hasn’t been confirmed is what gets you into trouble. You may feel that he’s being mean, but he may not think so. You need to convey to him that you feel he’s being mean and then get the clarification.
- He’s bored
Your relationship is not exciting enough for him; everywhere he looks, he finds couple’s in love having the time of their lives and when you looks at the both of you, he sees sleep! All the boredom creates frustration from within and his mean comments/behaviour is a vent out for all that anger. [ Read : 13 Secret Signs Which Will Tell You That Your Boyfriend Is Still Not Over His EX! ]
- Bad person
Plain and simple – he is a bad person at heart. Don’t over think this one because you cannot change a personality so forget about a glorious future with such a personality.
- No future plans
His behaviour is mean simply because he is not thinking about a future with you. The casual attitude towards you and treating your relationship like its nothing important is why you will feel that he is being aloof and mean. [ Read : An Open Letter From Girlfriend To Her Boyfriend ]
- The inferiority complex
Many a times, people are mean because they are jealous of you or then have an inferiority complex. So there is a chance that he feels you are too good for him; and to make himself feel better he will treat you badly and say mean things.
- Misunderstandings
Don’t rule out the fact that you are misunderstanding him – maybe he is not angry, but you assume he is. Similarly, your definition of mean is quite different from his, so there is a high possibility that he does not think he is mean, but you think so. [ Read : An Open Letter From Girlfriend To Her Boyfriend ]
- He’s cheating
He is cheating on you and his guilt comes out in the form of meanness! He does not know how to behave with you when you show him some affection so his instant reaction is to snap at you.
- There is someone else
He has lost interest in you and your charm so he has started flirting around with another girl. Since that girl is more exciting, while your cuteness is annoying! He will treat you badly simply because of irritation. [ Read : Simple Expectations of A Girlfriend From Her Boyfriend ]
- You are not his priority
His career, his friends, and his family – all these things come first on his list and then if he gets time, he will think about you. Yes, he does not love you or give you the kind of importance that you expect or deserve. So if you are not his priority, don’t make him yours.
- He has addictions
Boys love video games, adventures or sports! His passion for video games is to such an extent that he is addicted to it. These addictions will sweep you out of the picture and if you try to come in between him and his addiction, you will get the beating! [ Read : 7 Signs Your Boyfriend Loves You More Than Anyone Else ]
- He wants a break up
Your boyfriend is being a coward! He does not love you anymore; neither does he want to be in a relationship with you so he will try to anger you at every given point hoping that you will ask for a break up!
Don’t put in all your trust in a new relationship, because only you will bear the brunt. Always stand up for yourself and have a backbone or else your boyfriend will just take you for granted and end up treating you like dirt!
